I am more than my relationship status

For those that don't know, I'm currently single. This little fact has been sitting on my facebook page for a little while, since it seemed to make sense to keep my profile fairly accurate even though I don't tend to use the service as much as most others.

I have a problem though. Since changing my status awhile ago, every time I use facebook, I have advertisements for dating websites and singles parties.... on every page. While this wouldn't normally bug me (since I tend to ignore all ads anyways) the part that annoys me is that this is the ONLY type of advertising I am served. How about some ads about upcoming movies or concerts and events that are happening in my area? How about some of the standard penis enlargements, porn and herbal treatment ads? Travel ads to get me out of here? how about some military propaganda - shoot those terrorists?? How about anything other than just, "you're single, want to meet other sufferers"?

Being single is not a disease and it doesn't really bug me that I am currently not seeing anyone. So why does Facebook seem to think its such an important void in my life that it must fill it? I've even considered changing my status just to stop the ads, surprisingly it just changed the focus of them to my newly changed relationship status. Not to mention having to explain to all my friends that I actually am still single and the facebook just couldn't accept me for that.

I am more than my relationship status and being single is not a crime.

If clicking on the picture of the hot girl, who is "in my area and looking for a good time", actually got me a date with her sometime this month, then maybe I wouldn't mind it so much..... Facebook Bug Report!


BRILLIANT! love it mate.

I am a larger guy and seem to only get the "drop that weight" or "rock hard abz"..

Submitted by Mark (not verified) on Thu, 16/04/2009 - 3:34pm.
Don't worry mate, we've all

Don't worry mate, we've all been there. Nothing that a weekend out with the boys can't fix right?

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 02/11/2011 - 10:02pm.

Great to hear about your perspective on live and relationships Ryan. Keep up the great work.

Submitted by p90x (not verified) on Tue, 06/12/2011 - 7:46am.
that's your problem...

if you have been clicking on hot guys, you would be getting more results...

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 28/06/2009 - 7:03am.
It's not just us then!

I was forwarded a link to your blog because I asked yesterday on my own blog whether this was a unique bugbear of women... seems not! :)

Submitted by Emily (not verified) on Thu, 16/07/2009 - 11:03am.

Those seedy dating/singles companies know that Facebook advertising to singles gets a good return. As long as they're the ones prepared to pay the most for your profile views, then that's what you'll see.

Facebook could address this by investing in a classification system for advertising, reporting the click-thru for those types and charging more for ad types that historically get the best click-through. Does anyone with more expertise than me in advertising know if this is commonplace?

If they do, it could simply be that only dating/singles sites are prepared to pay for your ad slots.

But if dating/singles ads aren't getting a good click-thru (because you hate them), the system should report that lower click-thru for that ad type. Because you're not clicking through on ads, the pricing should start to drop until it pays for someone else to start buying your page view. Natural, profit-seeking ad rotation :)


Submitted by David Soul (not verified) on Mon, 20/07/2009 - 3:09pm.
So True!!

I just thought Facebook advertising was like TV after 11pm!
I was forwarded your blog by another single friend who said she thought you should start a FB page!

I have advertised on FB and found it to be effective - just stationery nothing more!

I agree David, surely with all of the info FB collects and analyses they would have this info and if the market was like us then they would not have click through. However, there may be high click through from other FB members hence the ads??

The thing with FB advertising is that it relies on the advertiser to input selection criteria and all users to have filled out every area on their profiles so the criteria can be matched.
I for one do not have every piece of info filled out on my profile and am sure I am not alone.

I agree Ryan, being single is not a disease and you have highlighted yet another area FB needs to work on! :-)

Submitted by Nancy (not verified) on Tue, 28/07/2009 - 9:38am.
super post,have the same

super post,have the same problem,wish all the best from Poland

Submitted by bukmacher (not verified) on Mon, 16/11/2009 - 7:30am.

Don't worry Ryan - that used to upset me too until I had a birhtday and they immediately started replacing some of the "meet single guys" ads with "freeze your eggs" ads.

Submitted by Sal (not verified) on Wed, 16/12/2009 - 11:13am.

Want a bigger penis ? Ohhh sorry, ya that definately gets old.

Submitted by jerry fields (not verified) on Mon, 01/02/2010 - 12:09pm.
That's Funny!

That's funny man!

Submitted by Tim Viec Lam (not verified) on Fri, 20/07/2012 - 8:04pm.

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